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Lily Pond's avatar

Hi Doga, I very much enjoyed your detour into a meaningful and insightful discussion of how we, "the foreigner," have tried to bridge the cultural gap with Westerners by explaining things in our culture in a way they can digest (a great example is the General Tsao Chicken dish in Chinese-American restaurants... there's a documentary about this fun subject!). I loved reading about Fatma Aliye. And I feel that those of us who have come to the West, like you and me, all share similar attempts in our own ways. I can relate to the "tactics" you used when explaining cultural differences. I also relate to your preception of the general lack of curiosity among Americans for foreign cultures. I find that to be still true today, to my chagrin. Well, this essay was a delight to read, and now I'm left with a cliffhanger of your interactions with your American dorm mates!

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Suyin Tan's avatar

Hi Doga,

I really enjoyed the turn in your writing of this piece that made you reflect on the parallels you shared in your journey with Fatma Aliye. I'm interested in intellectual history too, especially from the perspective of literary primary sources, and it was so fascinating to learn more about Fatma Aliya through your post.

I really resonated with what you wrote about the individual immigrant taking on the burden of representing an entire country and culture, the inadvertent defining of the self in relation to the gaze of the Western other and the power dynamics implied in this whole interaction. Through my process of learning to express myself more fully and unapologetically in my writing, I became aware of this tendency of taking up the burden of representation and universalization in myself too. Layered on top of the familial and cultural expectations that I came from as well, they compelled me to do everything I could to live up to the model of a "good immigrant", and in the process lose a lot of myself. I am slowly unpicking and unlearning a lot of this in my journey now to live a life that is more true to who I really am, learning to let go of this invisible burden and at the same time honour my own roots and heritage in my own way.

As I start building a new life now in a new country, I am curious to see how my self identity evolves with the consciousness and intentionality I now bring to it, which I didn't have before when I started building my lives in other countries. I'm also really looking forward to reading how you continue to explore this theme in your upcoming writing!

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